(Probably Constant)
Work in Progress
Gedankenkollektion von Lana und gerne andere die sich beteiligen möchten.
Ich bin neuerdings dabei im öffentlichem Raum Platz zu nehmen um auf meine Art durch Erkenntnisse, Meinungen und Reflektionen zu versuchen eine sinnvolle und gute Zukunft anzustreben in dem Menschen ihre Menschlichkeit im Wandel wahrnehmen.
Ganz bestimmt werde ich viele Fehler dabei unterlaufen und mit Deiner Hile werde ich diese zur Kenntnis zu nehmen um mein Verständnis anzupassen.
Ich glaube, dass Philosophie erst recht dann funktioniert, wenn sie verständlich vermittelt und .
Um Ergänzungen, Fragen, Anmerkungen oder Kritik • auf freundlicher und respektvoller Art • zu äußern, freue ich mich auf eine E-Mail unter explore@lynxtale.com.
Auf aggresive und attackierende Nachrichten werde ich nicht antworten, erst auf gewaltfreie Kommunikation. Das liegt daran, dass ich sehr stark an eine Gesellschaft glaube die auf funktionierende Beziehungen baut.
• HAPPY MOTHERS DAY ! •
• a declaration of love towards all people who dedicate their life to care for others • an undoubtedly humane way of life •
• my mother is the most extraordinary woman • I love her so very much, and I honestly can’t imagine having a better mom • well, maybe she worries a bit too much sometimes . we should learn to deal with worrying better, as it rarely has much use or plays a constructive part in our lives • she showed us kids and our friends what it means to feel love • unfortunately many aren’t as lucky a lot of people feel their biological family is nothing they want to identify with • growing up is traumatising • in today’s society no one helps you see how to raise a child, so they can be who they are and become their fullest selves • neither are we allowed to talk about traumatic experience, as they are tabus • good thing is that we don’t need our biological family : together we can create healthy relationships which allow you to be you and them to be them •
DISCLAIMER: By sharing my reflections, I don't mean to hurt anyone. Rather, I want to learn how to encourage people to become who they truly are and reconnect with their very own, very true defining feelings, which I believe have been stripped from us while growing up in this society. Since I'm very new to this, please let me know if I'm on deep waters.
If I hurt anyone with my texts, please let me know, and I'll include that into my thought and expression.
everyone who’s met my mother knows what I’m talking about • she’s just never ending love, care, and thoughtful light • “a stereotypical woman” you may think • that depends on how we define a “woman”: a person with unconditional care and love: I guess she is • she’s an emotional yet rational woman - say what!? - a thinking and reflecting person who constantly tries to understand the world better . get a deeper understanding . constantly questioning . never believing she has the full picture . she gives everyone a chance without judgement ♥
• you know, those people who have a hard time saying no to favors, yet very rarely ask for any • those who never expect anything but only give and give • people like her have to be careful not to get exploited and overworked • not to let their kindness be taken for granted or be taken advantage of •
while the provider “man” ensured income to pay for their family needs and survival, dominating the distribution of his income • the head of the family • taking on the power position • the “woman” made sure of his survival • while becoming dependant on his income •
when finally the women were allowed to work, it was long from being enough to survive without the “real” provider
OK, they might survive (even alone), but they are often overworked and barely able to pay their depths • these professions have been taken for granted • they often have to withstand relatives wining and attempt to further instruct them in their profession • so many grow tired, and probably forgot why they started in the first place • feel miserable and unappreciated at work • what does that do to someone? • why is it that these jobs are still taken? as long as there are people with traditional “women” characteristics, they will sacrifice their bodies to look after others . but for how long?in Sweden the status of such a profession is very low, everyone is aspiring to get a “proper education” so they can get a real and well paid job . if not, you may just as well be on welfare . oh, don’t worry, we have refugees to look after us now . because luckily those traits to ensure our survival are quite global . quite humane . common sense making
I know multiple people who have told me that they’d love to take care of people, but they’re just not willing to sacrifice their bodies and mental health fo that anymore. So little appreciation and so much overwork.
I also know people who truly just wanted to take care of people, and did their best to stay their moral selves doing it. Who ended up getting bullied by work colleagues. Why? I’m not sure. For some people it’s just too much to see good people, especially when you think you compete with them, instead of realising that you’re collaborating.
the claim is often: because these professions are not generating money - as you do when you sell something tangible or a service - so neither can the professional make money, as there’s no profit maximising at stage. I don’t think it’s as simple as that either . service personnel in stores also get shit pay, even when dealing with the biggest concerns.
Strangely enough, doctors earn a lot of money. Can it be because of the male tradition? a few years ago in Sweden, doctors were only allowing a certain amount of to-be-educated-medical-doctors at universities . although public health care had reached its limits long ago, and more doctors were clearly needed • this led to only a few straight-A-students being enrolled . I’m assuming most of them became doctors not because they care about people, but were aiming for the status and the money • eventually they admitted their wrongdoing . the group of upper class doctors limiting the allowed amount in order to keep their salary high finally gave in, and raised the number.. a little no, I’m sure it’s just because the education is longer and harder, and the expertise, decision making and responsibility higher . something similar you hear about CEOs being eligible to their wages because of their responsible decision making • yet this still doesn’t add up.. since we’re still "just caring" for people here; why can some make big profits on that and others - in the same line of profession/service - not, and just accept their faith? I’m not sure, it just got normalised I guess . including the assumprion that people will still look after others because they care about people
• so they get taken advantage of • systematically accepted that what people really need is not to be paid for • because care of people is not part of the capitalist profit maximising system • (until it is) •
• status • money • prestige •
now, clearer than ever we see which roles are truly necessary for our survival.
it’s pretty basic actually:
• clean water • food • hygiene • care of people (elderly, kids, sick, disabled) •
while parents are going crazy in their home offices with frustrated kids, maybe they will learn to appreciate the nursery and primary school teachers
while you or relatives fall sick, maybe you will appreciate the nurses who try their best to take time to look after you
appreciate the restaurant personal for preparing and giving you that take away, so you can just skip making dinner tonight
also those grocery store workers, who are at risk, and still don’t get a raise.
appreciate the cleaning lady when she cleans your house next time
isn't it time to truly say THANK YOU, understand why, and what that means, why not also give them a proper raise. if not the government, can we take a little slice of that middle class salary and give them a tip for their good work? (I don’t even know if that’s legal!)
because now we clearly see how hard that work is, and probably see how your job ain’t that bad, but rather good. and there’s no reason for snobs to belittle these caregivers, these people who are enabling us to survive.
“just be thankful for what you've got"
• my mom was a nurse for 30 years . she wanted to become a doctor, but for certain reasons that didn’t happen • as the loving and caring person she is . truly understanding what is important in life • she always tried the best she could stand up for her moral standpoint – in her personal, social and professional life •
once she stood up against a sociopathic doctor who obviously didn’t care about the morally right thing to do . he made decisions . mom stood up against him . although most nurses were probably aware of his persona, none of them supported my mother in her call-out for humane treatment of this particular patient
• if we want a change, a chance, we need to be solidary, and get rid of our fear for people in power . by making small steps in our work place, I believe we can create a better, more caring, more loving, more livable world together
. happy mother’s day to all of you caregiving survival-keepers out there . you’re doing a fantastic job and you deserve more . collectively think about what you dislike about your work space . encourage each other to say no to non-moral behavior . create your own good space . we all can make a change . it starts with believing in it .
• my mom told me that in the evenings, before sleep, I should look back on the day, and think of all the things I appreciated with my day – little or big things • this little ritual has become such a nice ending of my day, even my dreams have been very interesting and calm since • thanks for everything mom • you are the best • our love and your love to others will remain forever •
• even after our deaths, our love is never gone •
LOVE is to be connected and free
to enter such relationships we must first find back to ourselves and our feelings
not allow ourselves be guided by our own or others fears or manipulation
• helping • sharing • caring • connected • truly free • truly ourselves •